‘Happy New Year,’ we blithely call out to others throughout the first few days of January. It’s traditional and, although the wishes are genuine, should we stop to think what it is that might actually make someone happy and whether we can contribute to that happiness instead of just wishing it? For most of us, enduring happiness comes from our relationships with family and friends.
It is this network of others that gives us our sense of security, of purpose and significance. We know we are important to them, as they are to us. What must it be like then to live on your own and have no surviving family, or none that you recognise any more? Many people with dementia live alone and many others no longer recognise the family they still have. Can we do anything to make them feel happier? The answer is, yes, we can. A few moments of genuine connection at a human level when we ask how someone is or whether they are managing or can we do anything to help, can break through the isolation and transform a lonely day into one that demonstrates someone cares. Do wish your friends and neighbours ‘Happy New Year’. And maybe you could go that little bit further and actually create a few really happy moments.
If you care for someone with dementia or you yourself have a diagnosis, you may find help through the Wednesday Group or the Carers’ Group. For more information about either group contact Jan on 01777 709974.